There are so many things that are considered unacceptable in this part of the world though there are no written laws against them. This week, ANTHONIA DURU collated people’s opinions on one of such ‘unheard and unacceptable’ things.
‘I see nothing wrong with that’ – Lolo Tochi Ezeudo
I see nothing wrong with that. My mum does it and she sees anything wrong with it. Whenever she comes for omugwo, I decline but she doesn’t stop.
‘My mother washes our clothes‘ -Dimma Godwin Okoro.
Well I have a loving mum, a hardworking queen, a cheerful giver and a peaceful leader. No dull moment with mom and she is not lazy. My husband is my mother’s first child and I am her second child, we are one happy family. My mother washes our clothes and we don’t take her for granted for doing such for us.
It depends on the relationship that exists between them’ – Akintola Bukola Patience
I see nothing wrong with it. It depends on the relationship that exists between them. There are some mothers- in- law that can do chores without you asking them to do such. It only becomes bad if the son-in-law ask his mother in law to wash clothes for him.
‘If she can wash her son’s clothes, she can do the same for her son-in-law’ -Aribike Ogunwa
Why not? If she can wash her son’s clothes, she can do the same for her in-law. The first word in the relationship is son isn’t it? That in- law therefore is as good as a son. Why do we complain when our mothers- in- law wouldn’t lift a hand when they come to babysit for us because they don’t see us in the same vein as their daughters? If all these distractions are put aside, the world would be a better place. The world has gone past washing with the hands. All one needs to do is load your washer with dirty laundry and bravo, you have clean clothes.
‘Families are different, don’t judge’ -Hope Okechukwu Orekyeh
There is no hard and fast rule for anything in life. Families are different. Don’t judge your family based on what is happening in other people’s home.
‘It could amount to an abomination’ -Emeka Umejei
According to Africa’s tradition, it is out of place, it is not acceptable infact it could amount to an abomination. A son-in-law is supposed to cater for the wellbeing of his wife’s mother so it is unacceptable. It is out of place in the African concept of relationship between a mother-in-law and her a son-in-law.
‘It depends on the circumstances’ -Sam Anokam
It depends on the circumstances. For instance If he is bedridden and his wife is also very ill or incapacitated. But on a normal situation, it is very wrong.
‘I won’t encourage or support that’ – Tominiyi Akinola
Why will my mother descend so low? I won’t encourage or support that. There are many things she can do even if she is idle.
‘It is very wrong and unacceptable’ -Wale Payne
What actually got over the man? That is the height of irresponsibility, it is very wrong and unacceptable. I may be wrong but no right thinking individual will encourage such.
‘It is very out of place’ -Margaret Jegede
Wash my son-in-law’s cloth? It is very out of place. I don’t know if I am saying this because of my cultural background but I can’t just picture myself or anyone around me doing this.
